I'll just throw in that there are many people who do not use the English version but translated versions of this site, which might just add another layer to differing definitions of those categories.
And then some people are more picky about whom they like to have sex with versus whom they like to wrestle/fight.
From a nerd's perspective the categories are quite "historically grown" and sometimes it would help to add some sort of a definition/description to help new guys with some sort of an orientation. On the other hand: You should always try to clarify your needs/hopes/whatever before going out to choke/strangle/punch somebody else. :D
And that's something you will never (?!) be able to do with a short list of categories/words.
I believe that a few men on here love to wrestle because it’s a contest between two men. Hand to hand combat. To test who can come out on top. One would have to admit that there is a sexual element to our community’s type of wrestling. There is a lot of groping, rubbing, & muscle strain that makes one hard. It’s sort of fore play between combatants. I do agree with some men here that say “DON’T WANT SEX” refers to penetration. I’ve wrestled a few men with the “Don’t Want Sex” banner. But, while wrestling with them they didn’t mind rubbing their hard cock against me, grab my hard cock, nipple play, rubbing their cock in my face, and rubbing my cock against theirs. For a lot of “straight men” that is not considered sex. That’s just fore play. Don’t get me wrong I enjoy it, and really get into it. I LIKE IT ALL!!!
So true what you mention about "straight men". I'm bi, and hang with a lot of those "straight men". Some have a wide definition of how far they can go and still be considered straight.
I agree that guys have a different understanding of what sex is. I always communicate and also make sure to find out what my opponent's limits are. That's the only way you both can have a good time.
True. Not only do men have a different definition of what they're willing to put on the table when it comes to sex stakes (i.e. no fucking), most have a definition of what a challenge is. Compete, Pro, balls out, alpha against alpha, intense, compete for top. Or fun, not too serious, jobber/heel predetermined...etc., and everything in between.
It's all good, as long as there is pre-discussion of what is mutually desired.
I asked one guy who had, wants se, doesn't want sex on his profile. It was his way of saying he was willing to meet for a sex type wrestle or just wrestling. So I agree with the above comments, just start a conversation as I did and clarify it.
Some profiles I've seen are checked both "Want sex" and "Don't want sex". Confusing. I suppose there may be some sexual acts that a guy wants to avoid and some he wants, but that should be cleared up. I strongly agree that guys should be upfront and discuss their mutual wants and needs before they face each other on the mats.
Although this site is mostly gay and bi men & women. One should not think it’s a SEX SITE. There are other sites for that. This a site where people can meet to fight, box, wrestle and other combat sports. YES there are a few people on here looking for sex, but when you agree to meet someone you need to discuss what kind of match you are interested in. My favorite is definitely an erotic match, but have had all kinds of different matches through the years.
Let’s also not forget that not everyone bothers to pay attention to what they put in their profile. I can’t count how many people I’ve seen write they are only into pro fantasy bust check wrestle for top or who say they like a slow paced match but mark they also want nhb. It’s mind boggling.
Yes, I've seen what you're describing. It's probable that guys check off things on their profile when they're new to MF but don't update their preferences as time goes by. I make it a point to say what it is I want and ask my prospective opponent what he wants. I've had guys who checked "no sex" tell me they wanted to have an erotic match or have sexual activity during or after the match.
Well, in the end we're all human. I just try to be honest so that when a meet a guy there's no disappointments or frowns.
Hey BigChi you’re right. But my experience is that most guys write what they think they want then when they actually meet their opponent their minds might change. I’ve met men who stated in their profile “No Sex” but as the match went on they got pretty handsy. Not a problem, but then I had to changes my style as well. But hey we mostly do this for fun and exercise right?
I think it's a subjective matter what one considers sex here. To one it might be exactly like you wrote, anal/oral sex which they don't want and they don't care if you come somewhere on the way, as long as they are not involved erotically.
For others it might be everything which is erotic that they don't want to.
I think an honest conversation is always a key here, so that you are perfectly aligned in this delicate matter.
Nicely put werewolf. Metaphorically; Erotic is the fuse, sex is the explosion. A lot of fun can be had by playing around with the fuse without necessarily blowing everything up.
Good post.
I agree that what one man thinks about sex isn't necessarily what another prospective opponent thinks sex is, for him. It is subjective. I include what I mean about sex on my profile, hopefully a guy reading it gets what I mean.
It's always best to discuss honestly what one wants and what one means before going to the mats. Saves a lot of frowns and disappointment.
So when someone says doesn't want sex in their profile does that mean they don't want to assfuck or get assfucked by the dude their wrestling?
Because anytime i cum when i wrestle somebody i think that's sex even if nobody actually gets fucked.
FightingCologne (43)
4/27/2021 1:44 PMI'll just throw in that there are many people who do not use the English version but translated versions of this site, which might just add another layer to differing definitions of those categories.
And then some people are more picky about whom they like to have sex with versus whom they like to wrestle/fight.
From a nerd's perspective the categories are quite "historically grown" and sometimes it would help to add some sort of a definition/description to help new guys with some sort of an orientation. On the other hand: You should always try to clarify your needs/hopes/whatever before going out to choke/strangle/punch somebody else. :D
And that's something you will never (?!) be able to do with a short list of categories/words.
john el (14)
11/17/2020 11:27 PMIn my opinion - "Sensuality" = touching, rubbing, suggestive, feel good but nobody cums.
"Sex" = one or both has an orgasm.
Competitive. No matter the actual competition level, you're just there to wrestle.
dirtybarefet (0)
11/18/2020 1:10 AM(In reply to this)
Guess I'm just there to wrestle and we both cum.
RoughPlayNNJ (13 )
11/14/2020 8:37 PMI believe that a few men on here love to wrestle because it’s a contest between two men. Hand to hand combat. To test who can come out on top. One would have to admit that there is a sexual element to our community’s type of wrestling. There is a lot of groping, rubbing, & muscle strain that makes one hard. It’s sort of fore play between combatants. I do agree with some men here that say “DON’T WANT SEX” refers to penetration. I’ve wrestled a few men with the “Don’t Want Sex” banner. But, while wrestling with them they didn’t mind rubbing their hard cock against me, grab my hard cock, nipple play, rubbing their cock in my face, and rubbing my cock against theirs. For a lot of “straight men” that is not considered sex. That’s just fore play. Don’t get me wrong I enjoy it, and really get into it. I LIKE IT ALL!!!
4fun (94 )
4/27/2021 6:09 AM(In reply to this)
Good points, but also getting hard to while wrestling doesn't necessarily mean a sexual attraction.
Mike Gaine (68)
2/23/2021 4:17 AM(In reply to this)
Good summary. I agree, especially str8 men.
MUSCLEPECMAN (1 )
11/18/2020 12:40 AM(In reply to this)
So true what you mention about "straight men". I'm bi, and hang with a lot of those "straight men". Some have a wide definition of how far they can go and still be considered straight.
HardFight (18 )
11/15/2020 5:58 PM(In reply to this)
I agree that guys have a different understanding of what sex is. I always communicate and also make sure to find out what my opponent's limits are. That's the only way you both can have a good time.
MUSCLEPECMAN (1 )
11/15/2020 6:05 PM(In reply to this)
True. Not only do men have a different definition of what they're willing to put on the table when it comes to sex stakes (i.e. no fucking), most have a definition of what a challenge is. Compete, Pro, balls out, alpha against alpha, intense, compete for top. Or fun, not too serious, jobber/heel predetermined...etc., and everything in between.
It's all good, as long as there is pre-discussion of what is mutually desired.
Mike Gaine (68)
2/20/2021 12:05 AM(In reply to this)
Pre-match discussion is SO IMPORTANT
No pre-match discussion? Usually match and competitors encounter problems, unnecessarily.
Remember, only a very few of us can read minds.
LeighLadtoWrestle (1)
11/14/2020 3:24 PMI asked one guy who had, wants se, doesn't want sex on his profile. It was his way of saying he was willing to meet for a sex type wrestle or just wrestling. So I agree with the above comments, just start a conversation as I did and clarify it.
PhoenixBigBear (19 )
11/11/2020 12:54 PMSome profiles I've seen are checked both "Want sex" and "Don't want sex". Confusing. I suppose there may be some sexual acts that a guy wants to avoid and some he wants, but that should be cleared up. I strongly agree that guys should be upfront and discuss their mutual wants and needs before they face each other on the mats.
RoughPlayNNJ (13 )
6/02/2021 4:05 PM(In reply to this)
Although this site is mostly gay and bi men & women. One should not think it’s a SEX SITE. There are other sites for that. This a site where people can meet to fight, box, wrestle and other combat sports. YES there are a few people on here looking for sex, but when you agree to meet someone you need to discuss what kind of match you are interested in. My favorite is definitely an erotic match, but have had all kinds of different matches through the years.
bigchicago (68)
2/21/2021 1:58 PM(In reply to this)
Let’s also not forget that not everyone bothers to pay attention to what they put in their profile. I can’t count how many people I’ve seen write they are only into pro fantasy bust check wrestle for top or who say they like a slow paced match but mark they also want nhb. It’s mind boggling.
PhoenixBigBear (19 )
2/23/2021 1:15 PM(In reply to this)
Yes, I've seen what you're describing. It's probable that guys check off things on their profile when they're new to MF but don't update their preferences as time goes by. I make it a point to say what it is I want and ask my prospective opponent what he wants. I've had guys who checked "no sex" tell me they wanted to have an erotic match or have sexual activity during or after the match.
Well, in the end we're all human. I just try to be honest so that when a meet a guy there's no disappointments or frowns.
RoughPlayNNJ (13 )
2/21/2021 4:12 PM(In reply to this)
Hey BigChi you’re right. But my experience is that most guys write what they think they want then when they actually meet their opponent their minds might change. I’ve met men who stated in their profile “No Sex” but as the match went on they got pretty handsy. Not a problem, but then I had to changes my style as well. But hey we mostly do this for fun and exercise right?
werewolf (41)
11/10/2020 10:52 AMI think it's a subjective matter what one considers sex here. To one it might be exactly like you wrote, anal/oral sex which they don't want and they don't care if you come somewhere on the way, as long as they are not involved erotically.
For others it might be everything which is erotic that they don't want to.
I think an honest conversation is always a key here, so that you are perfectly aligned in this delicate matter.
Yan (9)
11/10/2020 1:02 PM(In reply to this)
Nicely put werewolf. Metaphorically; Erotic is the fuse, sex is the explosion. A lot of fun can be had by playing around with the fuse without necessarily blowing everything up.
PhoenixBigBear (19 )
11/10/2020 12:42 PM(In reply to this)
Good post.
I agree that what one man thinks about sex isn't necessarily what another prospective opponent thinks sex is, for him. It is subjective. I include what I mean about sex on my profile, hopefully a guy reading it gets what I mean.
It's always best to discuss honestly what one wants and what one means before going to the mats. Saves a lot of frowns and disappointment.
dirtybarefet (0)
11/10/2020 2:14 AMSo when someone says doesn't want sex in their profile does that mean they don't want to assfuck or get assfucked by the dude their wrestling?
Because anytime i cum when i wrestle somebody i think that's sex even if nobody actually gets fucked.
MUSCLEPECMAN (1 )
11/10/2020 6:39 PM(In reply to this)
I'm pretty straight forward in my profile. But at the end of the day, it's all open to discussion and mutual agreement.
bearcub1954 (12)
4/27/2021 1:55 AM(In reply to this)
Yes, you are very straight forward in your profile with what you want and that is very commendable. Gave me a woody reading it. lol
MUSCLEPECMAN (1 )
4/27/2021 2:07 AM(In reply to this)
Looking forward to the day we get into a power exchange, boss.
krammerz (1)
11/13/2020 1:35 AM(In reply to this)
You're not kidding, definitely detailed on what you want. :D
MUSCLEPECMAN (1 )
11/13/2020 7:53 PM(In reply to this)
It cuts to the chase, right?
krammerz (1)
11/14/2020 12:02 PM(In reply to this)
Totally agree!
MUSCLEPECMAN (1 )
11/14/2020 7:03 PM(In reply to this)
We should workout.